Grief & dismay is of course very important, but we as a nation should also reflect on other concerns as well so we as a nation can attempt, "civilly & respectfully," to effect change which will better our nation and make it more safe.
David, Your wishes are commendable....and on a personal level... realistic.
But on a societal level, I would contend they are unachievable.
It's fantasy to believe mankind will change after centuries of the weak being overpowered by the strong and both countries and individuals seeking controlling power to dictate their will over others. War and conflict is as much a part of the human experience as life and death. They are part and parcel to who we are as people. For as much as many of us would work to achieve the best that man can be...there will be those who will work equally hard to exhibit the worst of human traits. To say that we can change the dark side of human nature is equivalent to saying that we can, with the stroke of a legislative pen...eradicate all human disease.
Just as the best of intentions will never eradicate mental illness. You may seek to improve how such individuals are identified, diagnosed and treated...but you will never eliminate their existence. As and long as they exist...there will be horrific instances of violence as they play out their misguided actions.
I think we would all like to live in a Utopia where all are safe. Where all dialog is "civil and respectful". Where conflict and death are avoided, war is absent, and everyone lives in eternal peace... But Shangrila was a mythical place. Not an achievable goal. To fail to acknowledge and accept that realization is it's own form of mental dementia.
However, that is NOT to say we should give up trying to improve ourselves, our society and our world. But we have to appreciate that the ultimate goal is one we can never achieve.
Kerry
BTW, Mark...your comments in this thread are some of the best I have read in some time. Accurate and very well articulated.